It’s that time of year again when I think about what I’ve accomplished, the changes I’ve made and relationships I’ve formed. While thinking of these past twelve months of my life and contemplating the next twelve, the Word of the Year pops in my head. For me, this word is something I can lean on in order to grow as a mom, business owner, and human.
For me, 2019 was a year of lessons, change, move, and growth. One of the biggest changes for me was learning how to have a personal life again after many years of focusing only on business. We also physically moved. After 6 years of living in our townhouse, Heidi and I moved to a larger apartment and an actual dedicated space for my office and sewing studio (makeover photos to be shared in a future blog). Lessons on evolving from raising a small child to a pre-teen young lady and what it is to be in a relationship. Definitely a year of lessons.
Now, what do I do with this massive pile of lessons stacked up? My word of the year is going to define just that.
Word of the Year 2020
My 2020 word of the year is Mindfulness.
What is Mindfulness? In order to be fair, I’ve included a few different versions of what is said about Mindfulness via the interweb.
According to Alexa, the definition of Mindfulness is ~ The state or quality of being aware of something.
Mindfulness as defined by Buddha, ~ paying attention on purpose, in the present, and non-judgmentally to the unfolding of the experiences moment by moment.
According to Webster ~ the trait of staying aware of (paying close attention to) your responsibilities
What does Mindfulness mean to ME?
The biggest change/challenge for me in 2020 is to be Mindful and not have a MIND FULL of things.
I’m always going, always thinking, always doing and rarely just sit down and chill out. Being in a relationship in 2019 certainly helped me become more chill. I actually took days off, adjusted deadlines for family time and you know what…I really enjoyed it.
One of my old bosses, Carol Kegan from Sealink International, used to say, “Sue you’ve got Busy head”. Basically my mind never shuts down. She used to tell me I needed to “slow down and smell the roses”. Fifteen years later, I’m finally doing it and slowing down, smelling the roses, living in the moment and for 2020 I’m going to be Mindful!
What’s next to achieving MINDFULNESS
In the spirit of really focusing on Mindfulness and get the most of 2020, I started two new books.
Book No. ONE
The first is by Marie Forleo, Everything is Figureoutable.
It’s an excellent read if you’re looking for a life coach, but can’t afford one (raising hand), want some extra tips on being an entrepreneur or even if you’re wanting help on a relationship (good or bad).
One of the highlights of my year was seeing this amazing woman live in Orlando Florida. I borrowed my boyfriend’s car, which is much nicer than mine, drove the 4+ hour round trip, took serious notes and hung on her every word. I even had the rare pleasure of asking a question during her Q&A (4 people out of 200 got to ask) and her advice to me was priceless. My question was about how to really balance business and family time, how do I get the most out of life and yet not lose sight of my relationships. Her advice was this:
- Simplify to Amplify (only say yes to things your gut says yes to)
- Time management (which she goes into detail in her book)
- Prune your branches (choose what is really important and makes you the most money and the happiest)
Marie has an award-winning YouTube show, www.MarieTV.com, and an excellent podcast too. You can get her book on Amazon or basically everywhere in the world now. She was almost immediately listed aNY Times Bestseller.
Book No. TWO
In order to grow as a person and being more mindful in my relationships, I started reading this book on “mindful relationships”. Wow, just wow, the first chapter alone was superlative. It spoke of how to step back and look at yourself in a relationship and being mindful of your words. Already I can see how this will help me in every relationship I will have going forward, business and personal. The book is, “The Mindful Relationship” by Lauren Korshak. The big advice for reading/using this book is to not rush it, take 3,6,9 months to really learn from the book. As crazy as this sounds to someone who wants to get in and out with new-found knowledge, it makes perfect sense. It just takes time to learn something. In my case to un-learn many somethings. I’m excited about using this book and would highly recommend this read for anyone wanting to be more mindful of your relationships.
2020 daily practices
At the end of 2019, I began a daily practice of first, carving out some ME time. Just thirty minutes of light meditation, walking and reading. After Heidi goes to school is when I aim to dedicate this time and even though I’m a slow reader and not much faster at walking (short legs and all), I have gotten stronger, faster and more in control of my life. 2020 will be no different, those thirty minutes (sometimes 15, sometimes 45) are still dedicated to bettering myself.
There are also things I want to learn this year, I’ve got a couple of hobbies that I’ve been pushing off and not dedicating my time to learning. 2020 will be about really embracing those new things that are for me, Heidi and my family.
2020 is also a BIG year for Sue O’Very Designs – 10 YEARS in business. I’ve got some fun things to celebrate with you all and some really super exciting going on’s I can’t yet share. All I can say is 2020 will be a year to remember for me.
What’s your word for 2020?
If you have followed me for a few years or a few months you know I like to ask questions. Yes, I am in business and yes, this business feeds my family but if it weren’t for YOU I’d have no work and my goals would be different. So I ask you, my friends, my fans, my customers, what is YOUR word for 2020?
Leave a comment below for your chance to WIN a copy of Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo. Winner will be announced on January 15th 2020.
Contest Closed Winner Diane Willardson
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